The Importance of a Support System

Having a good support system is very important to your health and well-being. When in a relationship, it is also important to have people close to you who are outside of your relationship that you can talk to. This doesn't mean that you won't still talk to your partner when you are angry, upset or have a fight of some sort. It just means that you need to have a support system outside of the relationship as well so you are not 10% dependant on your man for your emotional well-being.

Some examples of people who can help provide your support system are:

Your parents/grandparents
Best friend

When considering your support system, you need to look at things such as that person's time to be available to you, their emotional ability to be there for you as well as how comfortable you feel talking with them. It's also important to remember that a support system is a two-way street and you should provide the same emotional support back that you are requesting. In addition, your support system is meant to be comprised of multiple people so that one person does not become emotionally worn from always providing you with support. When one person in your support system needs a break, there will be other people you can turn to as well.

Why is a support system so important? For one, it provides you with emotional support from someone other than your partner. This also gives you the opportunity to get the point of view and opinions of multiple people on certain issues. It also gives you someone to turn to if you have a fight or argument with your partner or if your man has wronged you or hurt you in some way.

Another reason why your support system is important is that they keep you in touch with reality. It's easy to become so wrapped up in a passionate relationship that you forget the outside world, lose track of how things really are and become "blinded by love" as they say. This is also a common problem with women in abusive relationships and is a common reason why many women do not recognize the signs of abuse.

Having a strong support system will also help you in the event that your relationship ends, as many do. While men will come and go, your support system will be there to help you through it and to keep your spirits up. Don’t wait until a break up or other time of emotional distress to look for your support system. Pick them now and know who will be available when you need them the most.